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- CommentAuthorAlison Moore Smith
- CommentTimeMay 17th 2007
Please join us to discuss Pay Your Kids to Attend Church!. -
I think I agree with Kathy on this. Never accept it. But the questions in the end make me think. Someone smarter than me maybe can answer?
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years ago, a lesson in relief society was given by a wonderful sister, whom I just adore. She comes from a very prominent LDS family whose mother's name every LDS woman would recognize. In her lesson she gave an example of her mother encourageing her teenage son to read the book of Mormon by offereing to pay him a dollar a day until he finished. He accepted the offer-read the book- went on a mission.
She finished her lesson by saying she would NEVER encourage anyone to think that they could buy their children's testimony but only that the dollar a day had helped in this case.
I've tried it. Didn't work for me. Darn!
REcently, my son, 21,-- knows whats right, admits he knows whats right, doesn't want to do that right now, found himself in need of a thousand dollars=--- long story.
I told him I would gladly work whatever overtime I had to to give him a thousand dollars if he would just prayfully re- read the book of mormon, because I felt he could not re-read it without being changed.
He looked like he would almost take me up on it. and then he laughed and said, "yeh but if I do read it I'd know it was wrong to take the money for doing what I should have been doing all along; and I'd still need a thousand dollars."
He is right. -
- CommentAuthorAlison Moore Smith
- CommentTimeMay 20th 2007
ROFL daisy. Smart son you have there! LOL -
- CommentAuthorLewis_Family
- CommentTimeMay 21st 2007
Glory, that is funny. -
- CommentAuthorSharilee10
- CommentTimeMay 29th 2007
There was a wonderful quote at the conference I went to this past week. Someone said, "Don't take too much blame, and don't take too much credit!"
I think that really applies to our children. We need to do everything in our power to raise our children in the gospel. We need to teach them to pray, to go to Church, to study their scriptures, to follow the word of wisdom, etc. We need to be there with them reading the scriptures and going to church to set the example. We need to do the very best we can . . . and then we need to let go and not take too much blame and not take too much credit. We need to teach them correct principles and then let them govern themselves, and love them unconditionally as our Heavenly Father loves us unconditionally.
As far as paying kids to do what's right, ideally they will develop good behavior through intrinsic rewards and no monetary rewards are required. However, if my kids don't seem to be motivated toward certain behavior (particularly chores, homework, and being nice to each other) I have been known to motivate them with time on their TimeScout (basically TV time) or money. Of course, equally effective is the reduction of time on their TimeScout.
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